Before I get into the intended content for this blog, I want to say something about the election. At this point how we each voted takes a back to seat to the reality that we are now living in a time when people feel emboldened to act on their intolerance and that really shakes me to my core. But we cannot allow ourselves to be paralyzed by the intolerance. Now more than ever we need to really think about the way in which we are parenting our children. I take what is happening post election as a call to action. We need to be the best parents that we possibly can for this future generation because there is a long road ahead. Our children are going to need all of the resilience, wisdom, kindness, empathy, compassion and courage that they can get and we have to do our part to help nurture it in them. That is how we are going to heal this country. We have a lot of work to do. We have a lot of self reflection to do. We have a lot of loving to do. We have a lot of healing to do. There are no short cuts but if you are a parent this is our sacred calling. To that end I want to continue to do my part to contribute in any way that I can. Information is power so that is what I offer now.
So lets get right into it. I am sharing a list of the parenting books that have really impacted and helped to shift the way that I think about parenting. I am going to share my five favorite parenting books. In the coming blogs I will take a deeper dive into each one so that I can share some of my favorite quotes and how they each blew my mind! I have included links to amazon for each of the books, just in case you would like to start reading any of them, click away! Without further delay, here are the five books in the order in which I read them.
- Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Kohn
This book was the first book to say some of the things that I was thinking and that felt like the right thing but I had never heard anyone say out loud! Here was this father talking about how we should parent in a way that is truly reflective of the unconditional love that we say we have for our kids. This book really pushed me. Can’t wait to share more with you next week!
- Siblings Without Rivalry by Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish
I am sure I am not alone when I say that one of the hardest things about having more than one child is handling the inevitable fighting between them. This book was a wealth of information and helped me to not fall into some common habits that can add to the normal rivalry that happens among siblings. If you have more than one child or are thinking about having a second child stay tuned for more information on this book.
3. No Drama Discipline by Daniel J. Siegel & Tina Payne Bryson
I have actually read multiple books by these authors and I was really tempted to add the Whole Brain Child to the list of books, because that book was really the first book to shed some light on how the brain of our children works. No Drama Discipline is the latest book from the authors and I think that they include the most important information from each of their previous books and on top of that provide specific examples for how to parent in a way that takes into account what we know about the brain. If you are only going to read one of their books, then this is the one. If you love to read then grab the Whole Brain Child too!
4. The Awakened Family by Shefali Tsabary
So I have this annoying habit of reading everything that my favorite parenting authors publish so just as with Dr. Siegel and Dr. Bryson, I have read all of Dr. Tsabary’s books. I am recommending her most recent book because it reminds me so much of the conference that Dr. Tsabary hosted last year in Long Beach, CA which Paulo and I attended. This book is literally all of the points that she made in the conference, that just blew my mind and have changed how I see parenting forever.
5. Permission to Parent: How to Raise your Child with Love and Limits by Robin Berman
This is a little gem that I actually heard about from listening to the mommy podcast, Atomic Moms. I listened to this author and everything she said seemed to be what I was struggling with. I think for me it has been hard to find that balance of unconditional love and yet setting limits. I feel like this book does a beautiful job of reminding me that setting loving limits is possible. It can be done!
All right, so this is my current list of favorite parenting books. I can’t wait to share with you more details about each of these books in the coming weeks. It is going to be fun! For now, let me know if you have already read any of these books. Is there any other books that you have read that have really impacted the way you think about parenting? I am always looking for the next book to read. Let me know! If you found this post useful, please share it with your friends and family and don’t forget to subscribe to our blog and Facebook Page so that you do not miss any of our future blogs about these books! Thanks for stopping by and letting us be a part of your parenting evolution!